angry wifey declares: enroll now!

The School of Self.

Classes enrolling now. Admission is easy.

Tuition will only cost you what you are willing to give.

"YOU CANT MAKE IT OUT THERE WITHOUT A GOOD EDUCATION FROM HERE"

.........sigh............

Why do people, who you know are smart, act so fucking stupid* sometimes?! I wonder this often. I wonder if other people wonder it too..

*keep in mind when I say stupid Im not talking having a lack of book smarts, Im talking being absolutely lazy minded.

Is there not a clear stigma about half-assedness? Isnt it pretty much a general consensus that half-stepping is a bad thing? I mean I know Im not usually an advocate of popular opinion but in this case I'd say there's safety in numbers. The fact that a good majority of people have been negatively affected (or at the least immensely irritated) by someone who doesnt put forth proper effort is enough to support the idea that being a lazy jackass, procrastinator, half-stepper, or anything along those lines is unbecoming of a fully functioning adult.

Now you've got your prime examples of these types: dead beat dads, over-delegating bosses, people who dont clean up after themselves, people who litter because "they pay someone to clean up this parking lot" (occasionally guilty of that myself), people in work groups or on group projects who let everyone else do the work, people who expect someone else to always pay their way, people who make excuses for EVERYTHING- you know what im getting at..

But what about the not so obvious offenders? the easy riders? the ones who take the slacker job for just that reason. the ones who send out a resume then dont follow up on it and wonder why they cant find a job. the ones who do things like put water in a dirty bowl but never come back to actually wash the bowl and put it away or even load it up in the dishwasher. or do things like take the full trash bag out of the trash can but dont take it outside- or on the flip side of that take one item all the way to the outside trashcan to avoid a bigger task like having to take out the overflowing trash in the kitchen. its sad really, how little this varies from the behavior of a teenager. And we fancy ourselves as grown ups.

Well GROW UP! if any of the above listed things remind you of yourself then its time to go back to school. Its time to learn you and what you are really about. See, I believe that the more you know about yourself, the less likely you are to present yourself at a lesser caliber. Its the whole live up to your full potential theory. Most people I know dont do this as a constant state of being, instead they use it as temporary bridge from one chapter of life to another. Why only do this at particular moments? Why not live to your fullest EVERY moment? When the opportunity presents itself, take it.. be it doing the dishes from last nights dinner or making an uncomfortable phone call that you have been putting off. sometimes not doing these things holds you back more than you could imagine. clutter clutters up the mind. avoided opportunities close doors. dirty dishes in the sink means no clean dishes in the cabinet. putting forth minimal effort will make people less likely to come to you, depend on you, look up to you- for anything. and that may result in people less likely to want to have you around at all. its a simple equation really. not hard to learn. cause and affect- one of the many classes offered at the school of self. spending a semester or two learning who you are and why you do what you do is the fastest way to true success and happiness. Enroll now!

angrywifey declares: some people just dont get it!

Ahh... life, love, and the pursuit of happiness. such an idealistic concept that all these things belong in the same sentence.

what ive found is that when you find love during your pursuit of happiness you run a good chance of looking back and seeing how much life youve wasted. that may make it sound like im bitter, but im not. well ok somewhat, but i am in love with someone who i am happy spending the rest of my life with, so that should slightly negate various sour feelings towards relationships.

the reason i feel the way i do, though, is because PEOPLE DONT CHANGE. its our perception of people that changes. its our view that changes. and yes it may inspire us to make different choices or stick to our guns a bit more but is that really CHANGE? no! its simply an adjustment. the real you- the you that your ex just couldnt deal with any more- is still there! just like the ex you just couldnt deal with anymore is that same person, no matter the signs of new life. just like the new person in your life was at one point someone elses ex, which puts them in the running to be kind of relationship-ly challenged as well. you may say "His ex was such a bitch!" does that mean he was a perfect saint? doubt it. what im getting at is during your pursuit of happiness ignoring signs can send you off down the WRONG road. then you have farther to come than you did before.

the concepts of liberation and enlightenment only have staying power if you actually learn and retain the preceding lesson. if you dont allow yourself to totally digest your experience then it kinda ends up empty. empty like your stomach 30 minutes after eating chinese food. (dont get me wrong i love me some shrimp dumplings and sticky rice). i guess what im getting at is if you are going on a journey (literal or metaphorical) you must pack the proper supplies and sustenance to keep you going, and safe. life lessons are like food for thought and it seems these days the brain of the average 20-30 year old looks like an am/pm. full of junk food. packed with things in shiny wrappers that make you think you are full but give you no real nourishment. next thing you know you wake up empty thinking to yourself "i thought i had this whole thing figured out..."

slow down, take the time to read the ingredients, the potential side affects, the serving size, etc.

OR theres the binge and purgers. the ones who bump their heads enough for all of us to learn from. they gorge themselves with a strange mix of bullshit and valuable life lessons and then throw it all up, then do it all again and so on and so on. these people use logic and reason like salt and pepper.. more a flavor enhancement than a base to a good decision. too much of anything will make you sick in one way or another and they just dont get it. these are usually the same people who are so self absorbed that they get offended when you tell them they are self absorbed- as if?! so when a friend leaves one rocky relationship and gets so blinded that she ends up in another she would probably fall under this category. i know several people like this and it makes me sad. smart, articulate people who, behind closed doors become big huge blobs of just waste. these are the ones who come to you for advice and support then take your advice, chew it up, and spit it out ..and carry on about their business- all the while telling you what they think you want to hear. (or leaving out details that would show you just how full of shit they are) either way its sad. its not my journey that is altered, its yours. i was just trying to share my strikingly similar expiriences with you, kind of as a map or even street light at least. no sweat off my brow, good luck finding your way back to your original route.

to all in and out of relationships. beware. some people just dont get it.